November 16th, 2023
I was the Director of Outreach and Care Ministries at a mega-church. This was an amazing position managing thousands of Christian volunteers in hundreds of local outreach needs. I was able to call upon volunteers in an instant during local events and emergencies. Second to God, I loved my church family more than anything.
The associate pastor and the church secretary called me into his office one day. I was told my hours would be immediately reduced from 60+ per week to only 6, and I would be demoted from my current position to a clerical one. I was stunned and crushed. I asked what I had done wrong. The secretary spoke up and said I was the least important part of the staff. She said there was nothing for me to do but to step aside quietly. I thought only my managing pastors could have done this, and all my reviews had been positive. My tears came, and I had no control over them as I staggered out. I suffered a massive breakdown, landing me in the hospital for two weeks. Because of church confidentiality, I couldn’t talk to anyone about what had happened. I later heard that the church secretary had become jealous of me and convinced the associate pastor to affect this outcome. I felt like someone I loved had died.
Even in the worst of circumstances, God wants us to be thankful. The Bible says we need to “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV). The word “ALL” is key.
It isn’t easy to give thanks when we’re hurting during hard times. The more we focus on things to be thankful for each day, the happier we become. To start, we have a God who has loved us since before time began. He sent His Son, Jesus, to die for our sins and save us from an eternity of torment. With this thankful outlook, suddenly, my own trials seem very small.
The associate pastor and the church secretary called me into his office one day. I was told my hours would be immediately reduced from 60+ per week to only 6, and I would be demoted from my current position to a clerical one. I was stunned and crushed. I asked what I had done wrong. The secretary spoke up and said I was the least important part of the staff. She said there was nothing for me to do but to step aside quietly. I thought only my managing pastors could have done this, and all my reviews had been positive. My tears came, and I had no control over them as I staggered out. I suffered a massive breakdown, landing me in the hospital for two weeks. Because of church confidentiality, I couldn’t talk to anyone about what had happened. I later heard that the church secretary had become jealous of me and convinced the associate pastor to affect this outcome. I felt like someone I loved had died.
Even in the worst of circumstances, God wants us to be thankful. The Bible says we need to “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV). The word “ALL” is key.
It isn’t easy to give thanks when we’re hurting during hard times. The more we focus on things to be thankful for each day, the happier we become. To start, we have a God who has loved us since before time began. He sent His Son, Jesus, to die for our sins and save us from an eternity of torment. With this thankful outlook, suddenly, my own trials seem very small.
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This makes my heart so sad that you were treated so despicabley by Christians. I'm glad their loss is our gain. 💗
Thanks, Karen for sharing this part of your life. You exude joy which demonstrates God's healing power and your willingness to give thanks in all circumstances.
Oh Karen I am very sorry this happened to you. I just wanna hold you in my arms and comfort you. That was so mean. You really handled that well. I am so proud of you and I know God is too!!
So sorry for your hurt. I was in a very similar position a few years ago at a mega church. So hard because I loved my job with my church family. Wasn't able to stay and worship after that. But God . . . Led me back into nursing and taught me to rely on Him. Found another church family that has been amazing. God needed me out of there because I had more divine appts to find in different places!